garden state Andrew: You know that point in your life when you realize that the house that you grew up in isn't really your home anymore? All of the sudden even though you have some place where you can put your stuff that idea of home is gone.

Sam: I still feel at home in my house.

Andrew: You'll see when you move out it just sort of happens one day one day and it's just gone. And you can never get it back. It's like you get homesick for a place that doesn't exist. I mean it's like this right of passage, you know. You won't have this feeling again until you create a new idea of home for yourself, you know, for you kids, for the family you start, it's like a cycle or something. I miss the idea of it. Maybe that's all family really is. A group of people who miss the same imaginary place.

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i finally saw this movie! ohmigosh. what a movie about real life. it's such a healing movie about alienation - coz lord knows how fast life can be even if you live in a small town.

andrew learned to look at life differently when he first flew back to his hometown in new jersey. he didn't tell anyone that his plane almost didn't make it. no one in his town seemed to know that he could have died on a plane that hit some horrible turbulence.

that's the worst feeling, ahahaha - to be strapped to a plane that's caught in turbulence. you're powerless to do anything, your life is in the hands of the pilots and the integrity of the aircraft.

what's really remarkable is andrew's friend mark who declared he's only 26, he isn't in any hurry to be anywhere. the film says the stress in his life is that one of his friends may be sleeping with his mother. but he realizes the same that andrew did while on the plane - there are some cases where life is to be savored, not chased after.

to be honest, i refuse to have that luxury, ahahaha - i know i owe lotsa people lotsa different things, and even as they don't expect payment. ...

but it is nice to be reminded to just live life.

memorable concepts:

"good luck exploring that abyss of yours."
"this is my life, this is it, this is all of it."

the fact that when you return to your home town there is so much life around, you'll never get around to live all of it unless you make time for it.

with enough medication, you can become so numb and miss out on life, too.

home is where you feel safest in.

you turn mythic when you leave town for long stretches of time.

if some things are greater than they seem, they often are. for example, if you see a knight strutting around your friends' house in the early morning, he probably isn't and's just one of your old friends who now works at the local specialty amusement park or restaurant.

or that the family living on the edge of a chasm in the middle of newark, n.j. is the most normal for miles around. even if they live on the chasm's precipie. coz doesn't everybody?

live on the brink of something, that is.

i think everyone does.   ¶ 2/06/2005 10:27:00 PM